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Lessy Trail reviewed Focus Martial Arts
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I met a couple of people from Focus martial arts at another unrelated martial arts event. One of the instructors, who's name sadly escapes me, was helping my mum with her kata and being incredibly patient and helpful to her. It reflected very well on him as an instructor! Thank you for your help.

Wilfredo Freddy Gonzale reviewed Focus Martial Arts
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I needed a place where my son could grow physically and mentally, a place that demanded respect. I was extremely impressed by Focus Martial Arts, look forward to many great years here.

Chelsea Gordon Orben reviewed Focus Martial Arts
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I would highly recommend Focus Martial Arts my son Sean who is on the autism spectrum just came out of a class and he is more than ecstatic to come back. The teacher was very nice and engaging and took his time explaining to my son the multiple positions and moves during his one on one session. He was so encouraging and motivating to my son to keep going and to keep Focus during the class.

Kristy Woznicki reviewed Focus Martial Arts
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I'm very happy with the progress my son has made at Focus Martial Arts! His confidence has improved and his skills are so much sharper. Shihan Marco is highly respected by his students and they put in the work and focus he demands while still having plenty of fun!
Thanks so much Shihan!

Kim Quigley reviewed Focus Martial Arts
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We literally left my daughters birthday party 5 minutes ago and I had to come write a review! They did absolutely fabulous at my daughters birthday party ! They knew all the kids names within minutes and put on great games ! We had so much fun ! Every kid said they couldn’t wait to go back ! Thank you for a fabulous neon dodge ball party! I highly recommend them!

Graham Honda reviewed Focus Martial Arts
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Our daughter, six, has been at student of Shihan’s for over a year. She’s now a yellow belt and excited to strive for the orange belt.
Shihan is terrific- he’s kind but firm with a great sense of humor that keeps even the most easily distracted kids engaged.
Karate and Shihan have taught our daughter more than we hoped for- focus, patience, self respect, confidence, persistence, and much more.

Tina Everberg Caamaño reviewed Focus Martial Arts
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We had our daughter’s birthday party here and it was fantastic! Organized, professional and the kids had a blast. They have more than enough help on hand to assure the kids are safe while enjoying themselves. You pick out a theme and they take care of the decorations, cake/food and even prepare the digital invitation. In addition, our daughter attended a couple of the Saturday afternoon activities and had a great time. Thanks so much!

Meire Rodrigues reviewed Focus Martial Arts
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The best art Marcial school ever!
I'm so happy and glad that my son it's in very good hands! This a family school!

Vincent Zannino reviewed Focus Martial Arts
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Focus Martial Arts is a great place for the whole family to really learn martial arts. Great teaching from Shihan Marco and the rest of the staff. Huge training space . My wife, son and myself train there and we couldn't be happier there.

Katty Sousa reviewed Focus Martial Arts
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Great place to learn martial arts. My kids had their birthday party there and it was a wonderful experience!! The kids had a blast!! Big Thanks yo the team!

Arafat Jahan reviewed Focus Martial Arts
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Love this school! Both my kids are enjoying their participation there. Awesome instructor and my kids love him. Well structured and highly disciplined programs. Strongly recommend this school.

Alyssa Kennedy Disario reviewed Focus Martial Arts
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Can’t say enough wonderful things about Focus Martial Arts! Hands down the best extra curricular for our preschooler. Shihan is AMAZING with both the kids and their parents!

Emily Williams reviewed Focus Martial Arts
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This was the best party ever. My 6 year old and friends had a great time, were fully engaged in all the games and activities. The decorations, attention to detail and excellent customer service. I had no idea what to expect and was completely blown away by Shihan Marco and his team. Thank you for such an incredible day!! I’d give more than five stars if I could.

Mirka Wisniewski reviewed Focus Martial Arts
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I really love the Focus Martial Arts program. My son has been going there for several months and we can see so many positive changes. He is more confident and loves going to karate. The Sensei is amazing with the kids. Having 15+ 4-6 year olds can be a challenge to anyone, but this guy knows how to keep the kids focused. As an added bonus, he makes the class fun for parents to watch. I would definitely recommend Focus Martial Arts to anyone interested in their child learning karate, respect and having fun.

Laura Ramos-Brandao reviewed Focus Martial Arts
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My son had his 5th birthday party here and loved it. It was stress free for me and fun for the kids. They gave all the guests and my son a free week trial and he just completed it. He loved it so much that we have officially enrolled in classes and he is beyond excited.

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OXYTOCIN: The Key To Positive Social Relationships in Children and Teens

Oxytocin has been dubbed the “love chemical.” It is the hormone that is released when we feel love and trust in relationships. For most people, they know oxytocin as a significant part of the parent-child bonding process. However, it is also very important in overall human relationships and is considered our “social glue.

The release of oxytocin is not automatic but rather, a learned response. It is very important for children to develop an effective oxytocin response. We find that when children are abused or neglected, they often have underdeveloped oxytocin responses. This is because they have been locked in the fight or flight response and have not developed the oxytocin response to calm down. Therefore, bonding is very important to children in the early years of life.

This bonding, that significantly comes through the parent-child relationship, can also be nurtured through positive interactions with adults such as teachers, coaches, and anyone who works with them on a regular basis. Since oxytocin is an anti-stress chemical, children who feel love and trust with important adults in their lives are better able to cope with stress and are more open. These positive feelings also contribute to a more positive self-image and increased empathy. This creates an upward spiral of positive social relationships.

Now that we understand the neuroscience surrounding oxytocin, how can we, as parents, teachers, coaches, and anyone who works with children, use this information? We must create a learning environment that is safe and increases the child’s “social satisfaction.”

Our FocusedKids program does this by teaching with the brain in mind and utilizing game-based learning. Along with this, two of the teachings FocusedKids that are used in class are specifically designed to improve the students’ oxytocin response system by increasing their social skills and empathy.

1) Healthy Competition: The use of “healthy competition” as a teaching skill in class helps the students’ make connections with their peers and gives them a “tribe” type bond. For example, when running a drill, the instructor may run it as girls vs. boys or long hair vs. short hair groups. This helps the students develop social connections, so they work together and trust each other to do the best for the team.

2) Extrinsic Motivation: The use of “extrinsic motivation” in class helps the students become more self-disciplined. For example, to get students more motivated, the instructor can say “If you do your form five times without any mistakes, I’ll do 10 pushups.” This is exciting for the students because it helps them to see the instructor as more vulnerable by having to do pushups. They develop the self-discipline to get their form correct so they can get the reward of seeing the instructor do pushups, which is fun for them.

The important thing to keep in mind is that our brains can develop a healthier oxytocin response at any age. It won’t happen overnight and will take time and effort on the part of the adult but the benefits for the child will be incredible. Creating environments that foster trust will make this process easier. Remember, even the smallest friendly interactions, such as fist bumps and high fives, can release oxytocin.